Wednesday, March 28, 2007


...I just became an uncle!

Wow. Look at him. Bradley. How cute is he? So cute!


Bradley was born March 28, 2007 at 12:36pm. He weighs a whopping 8 pounds, 10 ounces. Over 20 inches long! I am so excited to be a first-time uncle, but I am sure my brother, his wife, and my parents are ecstatic.

I know I haven't met him yet, but he's my nephew and I just love him already. I can't wait to be the best uncle ever!!!

Sunday, March 04, 2007


A heart-breaking and amazing read. Paul Monette's Borrowed Time: An AIDS Memoir is a remarkable must-read for anyone who's gay, faced tragedy, fought to live. Everyone must read this.

I found myself asking what happens to Paul and Roger Horowitz, and as I read, wondering if they'd be okay. In reality, I knew they were dead from AIDS. But a great book does that - it suspends reality and takes you into the lives, the hearts and the souls of the characters and makes you care, makes you want for them to defy their reality.

Paul and Roger's reality was the 80s in the incipience of "gay cancer," what we know now to be HIV & AIDS. While HIV & AIDS are now livable diseases, in the 80s, and we forget it now, it was a life of fear, anxiety and devastation. Monette details the unimaginable devastation of the disease on its earliest warriors. The the sheer thought of AIDS emitted shame, fear, and guilt in the workplace, in communities and within families. And why did a government not protect its children? The book is full of rage, pain, heart break, but with it hope. It doesn't seem right that a book about the ravages of AIDS sheds light on hope. But it does.

What Monette does portray through his relationship with Roger is love. It is the epitome of love. How selflessly they fought for each other and against the disease. How he took care of and wanted to take care of Roger: " never stopped feeling safe, not when I had him at home..."

"...[T]he longer Roger and I were together, the more we healed as a family. It's no accident, I think, that neither of us came out to our families until we found each other. Alone is is hard to want to face the barrage of cliches, and the closet is so much easier. But you can't go on very long hearing your heart's deepest core called your roommate."
Monette talks passionately about having a voice:
"...Loss teaches you very fast what cannot go without saying. The course of our lives had paralleled the course of the movement itself since Stonewall, and now our bitterness about the indifference of the system made us feel keenly how tenuous our history was. Everything we had been together - brothers and friends beyond anything the suffocating years in the closet could dream of - might yet be wiped away. If we all died and all our books were burned, then a hundred years from now no one would ever know..."
And on living:
"...[S]aid to John once, "All that will matter to you when you're old is how much you're loved." That is as true of sick as old..."
I was moved by this book. The story of love, compassion, of hope is universal. It is an analogy for any generation, anyone that's been marginalized, anyone who's ever lived. Go get this book. Read it!

Paul and Roger

Thursday, March 01, 2007


This line from a Savage Garden song resonated with me. I know, Savage Garden's a pop band, but maybe they have a point we should consider...

"I believe that trust is more important than monogamy."

I think it should be that trust and love, and love are more important. Love and trust. That's what I'd like to think.

What do you think?